Happy Autumn everybody! There is no purpose to this post other than to share my love and admiration for this season. I know we all love it. The burgundy hues, the pumpkin spiced lattes, the joy we get when we get to use the word 'autumnal and not to mention the perfect Insta shot of your Ugg boots standing in a pile of leaves . 

There are endless reasons to love Autumn and everyone just seems so much happier when we reach this point of the year sharing their pictures on Facebook of pumpkins and candles. 

​It does hit us quite quickly as the nights start to draw in earlier and earlier, but with each night that passes Christmas is another day closer so for every negative, there are no doubt plenty of positives.

Before the cold weather hits us, in the UK we have this brief transitional period in September where we experience all the Autumnal feels but still enjoy the sunshine. This means it is the perfect​ opportunity to wear those outfits that you have pinned of girls wandering the streets of Manhattan in their dresses and big coats or a line skirts and polar necks. We wouldn't dream of wearing those kind of outfits without tights gone September. 

That is why, collectively, it is very important we make the most of this 2 week slot. To utilise our wardrobes to the fullest, to say farewell to Summer and to transition ourselves into the colder days. 

 With that being said, I have chosen to take full advantage of it this year and I'll tell you why.

 Last year I spotted Hayley Baldwin in one of the chicest outfits I had seen all year. It was simple, cosy, oversized, on trend - just everything you would want from an outfit and more and I knew I had to have it. I went shopping the following day and by chance managed to locate all the items that I didn't already have to recreate this look. The fact that they were all in one store already tells me this was fate. 

 However, since that day I have never really had the perfect opportunity to wear this outfit. Don't get me wrong, I have worn it, but it's been combined with a scarf or tights because the weather would not permit. I've even worn it when the sun was out, but boy did I regret that. I had a natural highlight going on (aka sweat.) 

But this is it. These weeks of September are where I can debut it in all its glory, and that I did. 

Oversized Knit Jumper - Zara 
Brown Over The Knee Boots - Zara 

What are some of your favourite transitional outfits?
You usually hear this phrase batted around by your male friends when they're bantering about their missus, as they do! But women don't tend to refer to men in that way, as I think we all know we'd do fine without the male species #GirlPower. 

No, the love/hate relationship women have is with Make Up. 

I love make up with every fibre of my being. It gives me a confidence boost that I could never get from anything or anyone else and it gives me the capability to improve every aspect of my face; I can have a flawless complexion, chiseled cheeks, bigger brows and longer lashes all with the sweep of a brush.

Spending time on my makeup is something I do daily, and have done for many years now. But I have come to a bit of a crosswords as I am beginning to resent when I miss out on that extra 30 minutes in bed and my skin has started to look really shitty. Only now, after I have invested time and money into my skincare routine, do I actually feel confident to leave the house barefaced. But even that is an absolute rarity.  

Not only does it do wonders for my self esteem, but it's actually really fun. My ABH Modern Renaissance palette is my favourite for creating a variety of looks. If I'm feeling daring, I can go for a bold cut crease, or if I'm after a more subtle look, simple neutral tones are the perfect compliment. The possibilities are truly endless and I'm sure we have all seen over Instagram what spectacles can be created with makeup. We're all modern day Monet's, if you ask me. 

Even though I love experimenting with dramatic looks, there is a time and a place. I don't always want to look completely done up, and more than anything, I wish I had the confidence to go without. I can try to do a 'no make up, make up look' and  always find myself thinking "Oh, I look a bit washed out. Let me add some more blush." Or "My bags are overshadowing my eyes, a little liner will help." And before you know it, my cheeks are contoured and my eyes resemble Amy Whinehouse's. 

With its ever growing popularity, the industry has been completely revolutionised. We now have an influx of Vegan and Cruelty Free products, which I'm sure was completely unheard of 5-10 years ago and influencers such as Huda Beauty are being given opportunities to work on their own cosmetic lines which have been a huge success, all from starting out over on YouTube. I find that so empowering and motivating to see, that regular women just like you and me are able to grow in something they are super passionate about. I love that. 

However, with an increase in popularity, means an increase in new products being released daily from our favourite brands. I have a real love/hate relationship with this. Don't get me wrong, there is no better feeling than when your Beauty Bay parcel arrives, and you open your brand new Instagram worthy palette. But if I was to buy every new palette I fell in love with, I'm fairly certain I'd be declaring bankruptcy by the end of the week. It's impossible to keep up!

Given everything to consider, I still love make up, and I think I always will. It makes me feel like the best version of myself, and that is a feeling I can't compete with. But I think I will try to be more conscious with how much makeup I wear on a daily basis, and maybe try to go without on weekends, unless for an occasion.

What are your thoughts on make up.. Can you live without it?

Dress - Diesel

I know we hear it all the time, but confidence really is key. 

It's something that no one will ever master, but will always continue to learn and grow from and those who lack in confidence should find comfort in knowing that every single one of us has our own insecurities that we may never overcome.  

It's not easy being brave, and it's because we are so used to living in our comfort zones that we never think of leaving them. But why would you? The clue is in the name, it's where you are most comfortable. Where everything is as it seems, no challenges or added pressures, no anxiety and no judgements. Sounds pure bliss. 

It's easy to think that way instead of challenging yourself for not being courageous enough, but once you do get into that mindset it gives you the added motivation to start conquering your fears. There is nothing wrong with living a reserved life, but quite often there is no better feeling than when you take a risk and do something a little out of the ordinary. 

Stepping out of your comfort zone and challenging yourself is exhilarating. For instance, the rush you get when you cut all your hair off and get a surge of likes on Facebook or you apply for that job you've always dreamed of and manage to bag an interview. It's that kind of encouragement we all need to experience every once in a while. 

Fashion is a huge one for me when it comes to playing it safe. I'm always very conscious of what I am wearing and never want to be too 'out there' out of fear of getting judged. There are a lot of looks I have never dared try because I just haven't had the cahoonas or I have attempted once and someone has made a sarcastic comment and it's been sent to the back of my wardrobe never to be seen again. 

Quite fittingly, as I was contemplating writing this post Dia&Co reached out to me. They challenged me to Face My Fears and wear an outfit that I have always wanted to rock but have never had the courage to do so. 

At first I was very apprehensive, my original thought process was that if I don't have the confidence to wear it out and about for one day during my regular life where no one I know will see me, then why on earth would I want to put it on the internet for all to see forever and ever? 

But then I remembered, how can I sit here and talk about overcoming challenges if I'm not willing to do the same. I made this blog to create and inspire and in order to do so I would need to be brave, starting here. 

I am constantly saving images of my favourite looks from Pinterest and Instagram, but I rarely take inspiration from them as I never believe they will look nearly as good on me. But as #LFW has just come to a close (the time of year where everyone debuts their most stylish and original outfits) I couldn't think of a better time to execute this challenge. 

My biggest fashion fear is wearing revealing clothing such as low cut dresses and crop tops etc. I have bought a few outfits that are quite exposing but have never worn them, as I always find an excuse to wear something a bit more conservative. 

I decided to wear a red lip with this look and go all out. I have never had the courage to wear dark lipsticks either as I just never thought they would suit me. I buy plenty, but they sit in my lipstick box gathering dust. But since it is September now and I have all the Autumnal feels it inspired me to mix up my make up game too. 

I realise that these fashion fears don't sound like much when you read them, but to me they're huge and they will differ from person to person. But I can honestly say I am proud of myself for wearing this look out all night (and posting it on the internet) and not giving a damn about what side glances I received, or cheeky comments were made about me, and I think that's progress. 

I hope those of you that read this felt some inspiration to try something new, whether it's as small as wearing a different coloured lipstick or as daring as wearing clashing prints. Fashion gives us the ability to do what we want, and be whoever we want to be. We should always choose to embrace the freedom that none of us need to look the same.

What fashion fears will you be facing?

Being "too busy" is a luxury many of us pretend we have, but in actual fact just use as an excuse to get out of god awful plans. We have all done it, and it's the kind of statement no one can argue with. But it's not always what it seems and the way a person uses the phrase "too busy" can reflect a lot about their personality and what their true intentions are. 

(Warning: Please do not take everything I say seriously, I like to have a laugh)

Coat - Allsaints 
Jumper - Asos
Scarf - River Island 
Jeans - Zara 
Boots - Ugg 


You've been trying to arrange a night out with your estranged friend for months now and nothing ever comes of it. Every time you arrange a date something else comes up.

"I'm sorry, I'm just too busy right now to arrange anything." 


This person has zero intention of arranging anything. Ever. You don't need waste time trying to see them, because if they really wanted to see you it wouldn't be this hard and they would make time. Remember; if someone doesn't want to know you, you don't want to know them first. 

The guy you're currently seeing, but also kinda hate, keeps texting you to meet. He's super clingy and over emotional and there's no way you can stand to keep meeting with him. 

"I'm just sooo busy with work right now, I don't think I could manage it."  


Total fib, but the best excuse to stall time and avoid actually dumping a person. Hopefully they'll eventually get fed up of asking and move on saving you both from a painfully awkward conversation.


You're out shopping one weekend strolling from shop to shop until a stranger with a bunch of leaflets makes eye contact with you and asks if you have 5 minutes to do a quick survey. 

"I'm sorry but I'm too busy, I don't have enough time" 


Does it need a definition? Ain't nobody got time for that! 


You're out shopping one weekend strolling from shop to shop until a stranger with a bunch of leaflets makes eye contact with you and asks if you have 5 minutes to do a quick survey and for some completely bizarre reason you agree to it! 


"This is taking too long, sorry I'm too busy for this"  


Actually a very genuine response, the only way to shake these people off is to be a little blunt. Remember when they say 5 minutes they actually mean 30. I am speaking from experience. 


You bump into a school friend or maybe an old colleague, you have general small talk and ask them what they have been up to over the last few years.


"Ugh, I've just been so busy lately, you wouldn't believe it!" 


Okay, what a complete exaggerator. You actually shouldn't believe it, because it's totally not true. If you can refrain from rolling your eyes when they say this to you then credit where it is due my friend.  


One of those seedy boys who ripped the piss out of you during your school years but likes all your pics on Facebook now since you got hot, messages you out of the blue. 


"So sorry I didn't call/text you back. I was so busy I totally forgot"


Liar, liar pants on fire. You couldn't be arsed to get into a convo. It will only be the boring general chit chat anyway, so it's not like you're missing out. We've all done it.  


You ask your mom to come outside and take some pictures of your outfit for your new blog post. 


"Not now, I'm busy" 


Rude as hell. We all know she isn't busy, she just can't be arsed. But it's Momma, and you love her. So be nice to her. Also, she isn't that good at taking photos without getting too much sky or too much ground in it anyway. 


You're browsing through Facebook and you see that person who is ALWAYS online whether they're liking pictures, writing statuses or tagging their mates in memes about wine. 


"I'm too busy working on my grass to know if yours is greener"


This person is ONLY on Facebook to compare themselves to all their friends, acquaintances and enemies and to see what they are all up to. Deletes anyone that appears to have a more glam lifestyle. Insists they aren't jealous and bitter. 

Another avid Facebook user pops up, this one constantly posts motivational quotes about how they're going to be rich and successful due to the constant 'grind' they put in.


"Too busy doing me"  


This is to distract us all from the fact that they probably sleep in till 10am, and claim job seekers allowance which they spend on new tattoos to complete their sleeve. 


You're going through Snapchat and you see one of those blacked out pictures that just have text on them with music playing in the background. It says:


"I'm too busy living my life to worry about what people think of me" 


More than likely they have just gone through a break up where they probably got cheated. Definitely getting around a bit now, and definitely doesn't give a fuck. You go Glen Coco, get that body count up! 

Since I am basically an expert at decoding the dreaded "too busy" should you have any queries, then please do not hesitate to ask for my assistance! (Again, a joke)

Being a millennial has its perks, but mostly not.

We have it tough, I don't care what anyone says. Yeah we're lucky in the sense that we are old enough to know who the Venga Boys are and young enough to know how to work a computer. But all that aside, I don't think people realise that the expectations they have of us are completely unrealistic and the pressure is hard to deal with.

Denim Shirt - Jack&Jones (Mens)
T-Shirt - Asos
Skirt - Noisy May 
Boots - Dorothy Perkins 

Get a job, they say. It'll be easy they say. But boy, oh, boy, how wrong 'they' are. Yeah, we can all apply for jobs working in retail or a bar, but getting the job you really want is near impossible with the amount of competition there is out there and experience required. 

Once you actually do manage to somehow make it into the industry, I'm fairly certain you'll be starting at the bottom of the barrel and then we have the age old drama of your family expecting you to be promoted within the year to manager... It doesn't work like that these days Grandma, talk to me when you get 100 likes on your Instagram snaps.

The next step expected of us is to buy a house and get a mortgage at the tender age of 22, but how??? HOW?! How do we manage to raise the funds to pay rent, pay bills, buy food, live your life and manage to put enough away to save for a deposit. No siree, not gonna happen is it. Not when you have the burden of your student loan and every other debt you racked up during those 3 years of solid partying..er I mean "studying." 

What if you don't want to work in an office and buy a house just yet? There is so much to see in the world, and wanting to go travelling and see it all is a completely rational request. Your twenties are the years for yourself. If you make the decision to travel, I can guarantee there will be at least one person you encounter who will question when you are going to "get a job and grow up."

That moment might occur when you bump into an old family member and have to go through the excruciating pain that is small talk. It always goes along the lines of "So what are you up to now? Are you still studying? What do you study? Are you still a disappointment to your entire family?" 

And God help you should you say you never went to University. Even though it is a completely viable option these days and ya girl doesn't feel like getting into £27k worth a debt. Ya feel?

Say what you want, but millennials want more from life. I wouldn't define us as grafters per say, but we definitely dream big. I've never come across a more motivated group of people. The older generation didn't know any better and believed the only way through life was to get a job, get married and start a family and the younger generation all just want something for nothing. Of course, that doesn't stop us from scrolling through Instagram and seeing what our lives could have been if we were born into a wealthy family. But hey ho.

For some reason, no one takes us seriously. In my current job I constantly get "Oh you are far too young to be working here" and I immediately know they wont respect my position or opinion. But the sad fact is, that is applicable to so many aspects of our lives. I can't tell you how many Facebook posts I saw during the election saying how the youth of today fucked it all up because we voted for Jeremy Corbyn and how we didn't have a clue what we were voting for. Like we're complete idiots and aren't allowed to have a say. 

Another huge one being mental health. There has been a rise in mental health illnesses, and I'm not saying there is any correlation but it doesn't get acknowledged nearly as much as it should, and when it does it's normally negative and judgmental - "What do you have to be depressed about, you're like 20?"

What about how we all have to look like one of these beautiful Instagram godesses we see all over our feed? Everyone looks the same with their perfectly arched eyebrows and wings that could cut a bitch. But what does that mean for us? Are we deemed beautiful because we don't resemble the little person in our phone screens. Who decides that, and why does it fuck with our self esteem so much!?! 

It's not fair, and it's almost impossible to keep up. With social media being as fast pace as it is, this means fashion trends have been and gone with a blink of an eye. So don't even bother trying to save for that YSL clutch, because in a few weeks there'll be a new Gucci purse all are obsessed with. The same can be said for make up, it's exhausting. We get paid so little, and we spend so much on new products for them to release something better a few weeks later. 

Speaking of money, I never seem to have any? I don't know what the hell it goes on but by the end of the month I'm left with very little to go into that savings pot we talked about earlier. I'm not sure why it's acceptable to pay people so little, for such hard work - at least that's the case where I work... I hope they don't see this and sack me lol.

You've gotta work full time if you want to sustain a good standard of living. We all have to do it, I have no gripes with that. But finding that work/life balance is difficult. You work 9-5, Monday - Friday, so when do you have time to socialise or go shopping etc? You only have the weekend and evenings, but you can't do too much in the week because you have to be in work at 9 again the next day. That's only your schedule; your friends won't work the same hours as you so trying to find a time suitable for you all can sometimes be impossible. When you do find a time you're all free, someone will make an excuse to cancel because Great British Bake Off is starting and we're all introverted af. 

Get a job, get married, have a baby. I know that is what is expected of us, but why is there such a hurry? Why is that the process we have to follow? There is no rush to find a partner and settle down and the constant "So do you have a boyfriend yet?" is getting boring. Yes, meeting the love of your life at such a young age is a beautiful love story, but if you don't and end up rushing into it you could potentially miss out experiencing so much in life.

So there we have it. I'm sure that isn't all there is, and if you're a millennial reading this, I know you'll get it. If you're not, maybe you'll have some insight into what we are and what we are about. It ain't easy! 

What are some of your millennial gripes?

Jacket - All Saints 
Black Ankle Boots - Asos

If you are currently in a secure and loving relationship then please consider yourself lucky. 

Modern day dating is not as easy as you may think, and can actually be truly disastrous for those that are interested in looking for love. Of course if you're interested in the FWB business, then I'm sure you'll have more than a few options but that's an entirely different story, and blog post.

Unfortunately, not everyone lands on their feet when it comes to meeting a guy, and as the old saying goes "You have to kiss a few frogs before you find your prince." That phrase couldn't be more accurate when defining dating in the modern age. 

Firstly we have to establish where do we actually meet potential love interests? I can assure you this shit ain't as easy as it is in the movies. Guys do not come up to you in book stores, make a witty remark and then take you out for ice cream and if they meet you in a club they want nothing more than to take you home, sleep with you and never call you again. So you see, our expectations supersede the harsh reality. 

The easiest, and arguably the most popular method is now dating apps. Everyone and their mother are using them and they do totally have their perks. If you're a single girl looking to casually get in the dating game and not get into anything serious then go forth! You can talk and meet up with as many people as you want and not feel bad about it and it can do wonders for your self esteem having loads of men fawn over you... So I've heard. 

Anyway, with the highs comes the lows and I can confirm there are a lot of lows with using dating sites. Just to name a few:

1) Creeps
2) Fakes and phonies 
3) The ones just looking for sex
4) Married men/women
4) Coming across your brother/sister/any relative/ex
5) The mega creeps

All I will say is I would recommend you enter with caution! 

There isn't much worse than not knowing where you stand when starting out a new relationship. You might think the idea of going out on a date is simple, but it isn't. You have to define the date first. For instance, if you get asked "Are you coming to pub tonight?" Not a date. This guy is only interested when you are around, and doesn't want to take the opportunity to get to know you one on one. AKA he just wants sex. 

Now I'm all for feminism, but when a man pays on a date, I wouldn't say no as I consider it a nice gesture. However, this isn't something you can really talk about and plan before so you have to just roll with it. If he has no intention of paying this can be an incredibly awkward encounter. My best advice would be to offer to split, if he was planning on paying he still will anyway and it should get you some bonus points. 

When you find someone that you are actually willing to take time out of your day to text regularly with, then comes the issue of decoding messages. I hate it, I hate it, I hate it. 

You will spend so much time trying to decipher hidden messages in everything they are saying to you, but more often than not it there is no mystery and they probably were just busy at the time. The sad fact is that today's society lacks so much trust when it comes to relationships that they just aren't treated as sacred anymore. Cheating has become second nature amongst so many of us, that anyone wanting to be exclusive has to have their guard up to prevent them from getting hurt. Thus making this just one of the preventative measures we go through to protect ourselves.  

There are more ways we can protect ourselves of course, and the most brilliant, yet crazy, being cyber stalking. Don't lie, we have ALL done it because unless you want 'MUG' written on your forehead, you have to know if there's any skeletons in the closet i.e Another girlfriend, a secret family, wanted for murder... The usual. 

I'm not saying this is the best of ideas because this can have an adverse affect should you end up seeing something you don't like. You've only been seeing each other for two weeks, there's no way you can go calling him out on why he is still Facebook friends with his old high school girlfriend. No way. We save crazy for the fifth date.

I do think it's unfair when we get branded as 'psycho' though. When you actually think back on all the shit girls can initially go through during the courting stage, it's unreal. The worst of all is when they start the stupid game playing and your mind does overtime trying to analyse every conversation. 

"Something's up, he only sent one x? I sent xxx." 

"Ohhh so he's gonna take 1 hour to reply to me, well bitch, I'm gonna take 3. How do you like me now?!"

We being the idiots that we are think we can play the game better. We can't. Males were born with the innate ability to play girls all over the field, it comes naturally to them and they genuinely think they're not doing anything wrong. Girls on the other hand were not and we have had to learn to adapt. 

If you have managed to make it through all of the aforementioned stages, then congrats but you're now onto the boss level. Having the "Are we exclusive?" conversation. Bridging the gap between the 'seeing each other' and 'official boyfriend and girlfriend' stages are hard. So much can go wrong when you bring this question up; you have to time it perfectly. 

You say it too soon and you run risk of scaring them off and coming across as needy. You wait too long and they might think you're not that invested in a serious relationship and they need to find someone who is on the same page because they can't wait for you to get your shit together. 

When does the saga end?!

I'm sure many of you will know what I'm talking about, and if you don't - treasure your other halves as dating in today's day is a literal version of hell. 

What are some of your dating disasters?

Heeeey new OOTD!

So we are currently in Summer but for some completely bizarre reason we're getting torrential rain here in England. Not only are we getting drenched, but it's so freaking humid here too. I couldn't think of a worse combination tbh. 

Anywho. Trying to find outfits to wear becomes increasingly difficult as you want to dress cool, but don't want to catch a cold in July too. 

I put together this outfit; a lightweight jumper in a bright coral colour. Coral always makes me think of Summer and hot weather, in fact as I type this I have coral nails too. So even in jumper form, I still think it's acceptable to wear in July. 

My culottes are my favourite thing ever. I know I have featured them not so long ago on here but they're just so perfect for any time of day. I can dress them up for a day outfit, as you can see or I could wear them with a shirt for a fancy look as I did for my birthday

Black boots are my one true love in life. I'm not exaggerating. They have been there through thick and thin, they have been the finishing touch to endless outfits of mine, when I'm sad I buy a new pair and my mood is instantly lifted. I'm serious, they're amazing. 

Also, I'm just gonna call myself out here. I reaaaally need to learn to hide the remote when I'm taking pictures of myself #facepalm. Live and learn right?!

How are you guys dressing for this horrendous weather?

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